Like A Virgin

So if you couldn’t tell by my title, I’m going to be talking about virgins.  Actually I'm just going to talk about one virgin.  Me.  Yes I am a virgin (you would know that if you read my bio ; D).

Now before I really get into it, I feel like I need to do some embarrassing truth telling. 

I’ve never been kissed. 

That is how much of a virgin I am.  I mean the closest thing I’ve seen to a guy’s junk are those diagrams they show you in middle school health class.  You know the one’s I’m talking about.  The kind of diagram that was the closest you could get to being a picture of a stick man, while still being able to be called a diagram (and I’m using the word diagram very loosely).

So how is it that a woman in her early twenties hasn’t even had her first kiss yet?  I have no freaking clue!  For goodness sakes I should have accidently kissed a guy by now. For now I guess I’ll just have to chalk it up to pure and unadulterated talent.

You’re probably asking what my point is (other than giving y’all waaaay too much personal information lol).

Well, being a virgin who thinks about sex more often than many teenage boys do, I really want to know how guys react when they find out a girl is a virgin.  Because at some point I’m going to have to saying something about it to a guy.

So while talking to my friend Autumn the other day she told me that she had encountered a couple of different reactions when she told guys.

v  Some like to emphasis how gentle they’ll be.

v  Some see it as a challenge.  “As in hey I bet I’m the one who can get in your pants”.

And to be honest I’m not sure I really like either of those reactions, or I guess I shouldn’t like either of those reactions. 

While I would appreciate some gentility my first time, since I’ve been told it hurts for girls.  As soon as that’s over with and I’m more comfortable I would like to move on to something else….like crazy animal sex.  Yeah I said it.  That’s why, I’m sure, I’m turned on by that second reaction.  I mean the idea of being pursued is sexy.  But like Autumn pointed out guys who think of your virginity that way are just players and should be avoided.  And I know she’s right.  Dang it. 

So now I have a question for you ladies.  How have guys, or a guy, reacted when you told them you were virgin?  And for any of my male readers, what is your reaction when a girl tells you she’s a virgin?

And if y’all don’t get the reference in my title here is the video to Madonna’s song Like A Virgin:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VgkOCJ9PGkk&ob=av2n

I actually hate this song it’s just an awesome reference haha

Stalkers Anonymous

Hello my name is Izzy and I have a problem.  I am a facebook creeper.

Ok so I know I’m all Mr. Right and everything, but I have a serious thing for pretty boy players.  Right now I’m still focused on Adventure Guy.  I have however stopped visiting his FB page cold turkey.  I’m only allowing myself to look at things of his that pop up on my news feed.  Absolutely no going to his actual page.

I mean it’s absolutely ridiculous that I’m so interested in some guy who I really don’t even know that well and who is clearly a player.  Why is it that my sensible side completely flies out the window when these guys are around?!?  I mean seriously I know better!  And yet I search for any sign of him on my news feed.

So why do I do this?  Well I actually didn’t figure that out until recently.  It turns out that while my brain is telling me I’m pretty, my internal self still has a confidence problem.  So I’m attracted to these guys because I think if they want to date me then I must be pretty. 

Yes that is a very stupid thought.  Plus I was recently informed by a good friend that Adventure Guy is actually not very attractive.  And yet I would probably say yes almost immediately if he asked me out.  This is no bueno.  

So I am going to treat this like an addiction.

Step one: admit you have a problem.  Done

Step two: discover the cause of this problem.  Done

Step three: accept that you can fix this problem (with help of course).  Not so much  

And I’m not sure where to go from there.  I understand why I think this way, so I should be able to stop it.  So why is it that every time I see a comment from Adventure Guy on a girl’s page, picture, or whatever I get mad at him?  Once again this is definitely not bueno.  And I totally realize how crazy I sound.  But what can a girl do?

I guess I’ll just do The Creep!  Haha

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tLPZmPaHme0

Mr. Right Not Mr. Right Now

I have a dream.......No really ladies I did have a dream and it involved a guy.  And I'm not talking about the kind of dream I'm sure you’re thinking of (even though I would welcome that kind).  The only part of this dream I remember is that I was being held by a man who I knew without a shadow of a doubt loved me unconditionally.  And I loved him more than anything else in the world.

Now I know this was just a dream but that doesn’t mean it can’t be a reality.  What Junie has never realized is that being in a relationship is not just about being ‘in love’.  Yeah love is a gosh darn important part of a lasting relationship but it’s not the only component.  A good relationship is an equal partnership between two people.  And that’s a concept Junie still doesn’t get.

I am an intelligent, attractive, moderately physically fit, funny, sarcastic, amazing woman who is fyi a good cook too boot.  And because I am all of these things I deserve a man who is also intelligent, attractive, funny, sarcastic, and just an all-around amazing man.  Now I’ve explained the same thing to Junie a hundred times but because she doesn’t see those qualities in herself she does not look for them in a man.

And ladies that is a mistake!  A relationship is not and should never be a dictatorship!  And that goes for you too men.   Whenever you’re thinking about dating a guy or are already dating a guy, try to remember what kind of guy you deserve.  

And as fun as Britney makes them seem let's stay way from the Criminals as well!  ; )

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ywAordXWNzI&feature=related