Lost in Hobo Land

Ok Ladies let’s talk about what we don’t want in a man. 

I currently have a friend, we'll call her Junie, who’s engaged to Stan the Hobo Man.  I might add that this engagement is “secret” as in they haven’t told anyone about it because he’s a very “private” guy. 

You’re probably thinking why do I call Stan ‘the hobo man’?  Well there are several reasons.  The first one being that after only two months of dating my friend he moved in with her and her family.  Now that’s in its self might does not seem like a big deal,  but he hasn’t had a job since moving in with them…..roughly nine months ago!  Plus she has been the one paying for all of his nice new hobo stuff. 

I might also mention that Stan is also excessively ummmm “honest” and an insufferable know it all.  Let me explain what I mean by honest.  One day junie is talking about how she had gained all this weight and how she really needed to go to the gym; but she just didn’t seem to have the time (btw she hadn’t gained any weight).   Stan responds with “well if it’s not this excuse than it’ll be another one”.  Can you believe that?!?  And he has a habit of making similar degrading comments like that all the time.  By the way Stan won’t even pay for a professional hair cut so he pretty much always looks rough all the time (and not the sexy kind of rough).

Now I hope you are all asking “What the Hell is she thinking?!?” and if you aren’t you should be.  What she is thinking is that she isn’t good enough.  Juniehas no confidence in herself.  Outwardly she is all confidence, but privately she thinks that this is the only kind of guy who will ever love her.  So now what I want y’all to understand is that we ALL deserve someone better than Stan.  I’ll let you in on my idea of Mr. Right in my next blog.

But ladies please don’t undermine your own value.  I know I’m a good woman and I deserve a good man to spend my life with.  You should know that too.  And please, please, PLEASE don’t get lost in your own Hobo land.

If you start to doubt yourself just remember this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wyx6JDQCslE&ob=av2e

*Names have been changed to protect the innocent.  And I’m sorry about some of the inappropriate content of the video  : )

Smile Like You Mean It!

I’ll admit that I’ve been in a bit of a funk recently.   But as I was scrolling through facebook a minute ago I saw this post one of my friends made:

The Pursuit of Happiness: 15 Lessons to Keep in Mind

1. The only person that can ever truly make you happy is yourself. Stop depending on everyone else.

2. People lie, stuff happens. Don’t take it too personally.

3. Want people to think you’re amazing? Start believing you are, and then they will too.

4. Smiling is the ultimate anti-depressant. Smile and laugh out loud, it doesn’t look stupid, I promise.

5. The world is never just black and white, right or wrong, one way or another. Try and see things from as many points of view as possible.

6. "Let everything happen to you

Beauty and terror

Just keep going

No feeling is final"

— Rainer Maria Rilke

7. Have empathy.

8. Gossip, problems of the past, events you cannot control, negative thoughts and negative people; time spent on these is time poorly wasted.

9. When you're jealous or find yourself filled with hate for someone/something, stop. The only person its hurting is you.

10. Although the newest, most expensive material things may make you feel as if you’re a better person, they won’t hold you at night or listen to you when you need it. Make sure your priorities make sense.

11. Step outside your comfort zone- it’s when you’ll really feel alive.

12. Don’t be afraid to be yourself, the people who really matter, don’t mind

13. Let your emotions out sometimes, humans have them for a reason.

14. Celebrate the things you have. Think only positively of the things you don’t (but would like to have) and they too will come.

15. Love unconditionally ♥.

It made me stop and think about some things.  Like how I shouldn’t be irritated with Mr. Adventure because of his lack of interest in me.  He’s a player and frankly I haven’t given him any reason to try and get to know me better.  And that I shouldn’t let a guy’s (for that matter any guy’s) opinion of me determine how I act or feel about myself.  I know that I can stand without a man and be awesome all by myself.  It’s just that sometimes I need to be reminded of that. 

Oh and to add to that list don’t just smile try to find humor every day in your life.  Try looking, and I mean really looking, at the world around you.  You’ll be surprised at what you’ll see and all of the amazing things you never noticed.

I’m going to leave y’all with one of my favorite Supernatural blooper clips.  I am a fan of the show and nothing makes me smile like Jensen and Jared!   : )


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4QNWZD-J-2s&feature=related

Beginnings

I wasn’t sure how I would start this blog but I finally decided to start from the semi-beginning.

I have pretty much always been shy.   But recently I’ve forced myself to get better.  I’ve started making friends with a certain amount of ease and for a while I thought I was cured from this almost incapacitating shyness.

Until I met this guy.  We’re just going to call him Chris (aka Mr. Adventure).

Now along with my usual shyness I’ve always had this Rajeshish habit when I’m around guys.  And if you don’t watch Big Bang Theory then here is a clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p9vVE3d3Dls&feature=related.

Basically Raj is unable to talk when he’s around women.  (I hope that’s what you got from the video).  Well in my world I just become a mute idiot.  I avoid eye contact and when I am actually able to say something it’s usually in one to two word sentences.  And if I say thing more than a couple of words I end up regretting it and hitting myself on the forehead later saying “Stupid! Stupid!”

And this is absolutely ridiculous!  I am an intelligent woman!  And yet when I get around this guy I somehow revert to this idiot teenager who fidgets like crazy. 

I mean I had a slight panic attack when I figured out that I was attracted to this guy.  How flipping crazy is that!  I am Miss. cool as a cucumber in every kind of situation.  Except when it comes to guys.

So why the almost panic attack?  Well all year I have been talking to guys with an unusual amount of ease.  And needless to say I’ve been of cloud nine about my progress.  But in looking back at all of those guys I started to see a pattern.  I wasn’t attracted to any of them.  And figuring out that I’m still an idiot around cute guys is what caused the near panic attack.

This is going to put a big dent in any plans I had for dating this year.